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Loved and Lost (What I've learned about love part 3)

"I hold it true, whate'er befall;          I feel it, when I sorrow most;          'Tis better to have loved and lost Than never to have loved at all." (Alfred Lord Tennyson,  In Memoriam A. H. H. OBIIT MDCCCXXXIII: 27)

Love is never a mistake. I do not believe in a God who limits himself when he loves, so I should not limit myself when I love.  Love, the real kind, is infinite because it has as its source the infinite God. There is no way, in any situation, to love someone "too much."  But often I'm tempted to beat myself up for loving someone who didn't love me back, or loving someone more than they love me.  When you love and you lose, you not only have to get over the heartbreak.  Sometimes you feel a sickening guilt as well.  Those sickening feelings usually make me suspicious.  When God is behind something, there's a certain element of peace or conviction, even if you feel guilty.  The kind of guilt I'm talking about is the other kind, t…